The subconscious mind is like the court stenographer. It’s recording every trauma that has happened to us. Maybe it was the first time we got fired. Every bad thing that someone has said to us. That time that someone called us fat.
Left unchecked, all of that ’stuff’ and scripts in our subconscious is operating on autopilot.
“I’m not deserving.”
“I’m not worthy.”
“I can never do that.”
When you say “I want to lose weight,” You are harnessing willpower. Willpower is about 5-10%. Your subconscious, left unchecked, is in the driver’s seat. 90% of what your life looks like, is driven by the subconscious.
You can see why it’s a losing battle.
If you are constantly saying something that is limiting, you will begin to believe that subconsciously, ie if you are afraid of flying (an example). Say something like FLYING allows me to feel the freedom of travel and experiences.
Affirmations or the opposite of the negative self talk takes a daily commitment. It has to become anchored in your belief system. One of my favorite quotes is from Lady Gaga who told herself a lie each day that she was a star You tell yourself a lie enough, it becomes the truth. Mohammad Ali used to tell himself “I’ am the greatest” Jim Carrey used to say to himself as he sat above Hollywood, “Everyone wants to work with me”
For example- if you are afraid of flying, you have to consciously add positive thoughts and experiences around flying into your subconscious in order to REWIRE your belief about it. I call it RECALIBRATING, like a GPS system.
Quiets the conscious mind and lets you become less aware of your surroundings and more aware of your breath, an image, or mantra that you are focused on. During meditation, you can focus on what you want and let your subconscious mind begin to reprogram with the new idea, image, and desire. You become less reactive.
The subconscious mind does not distinguish between false or true, research has proven, so if you are visualizing something strong enough, it will feel as if you are already doing it and store it as something that is part of your life. It will reshape your reality.
“You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.” Oprah
Self Fulfilling Prophecy- For example, if you wake up and immediately think-for whatever reason or for no particular reason at all-that today is going to be a terrible day, your attitude might make your prediction come true. You may unconsciously work to AFFIRM YOUR BELIEF by ignoring the positive, amplifying the negative, and behaving in ways that are unlikely to contribute to a positive day. This then becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This also happens in work “I won’t get promoted”. “I won’t win that account”. Etc, etc.
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