As women leaders, it’s important to understand what it means to have an “open mindset” versus a “fixed mindset.” 

The most successful leaders have a growth mindset. 

Consider Chef Daniel Humm of the chic NY restaurant Eleven Madison.

He knew, when the pandemic set in, nobody was giving a hoot about his lavender duck recipe. He took his job as a soldier in the hospitality industry seriously. He wanted to serve. So he turned the Michelin 3-star restaurant into a commissary kitchen and began serving 5,000 meals daily to the hungry. 

He didn’t sit down and throw up his hands. His growth mindset looked for the opportunity in the crisis.

Consider Thomas Edison, Inventor:

“One day Thomas Edison, the inventor, came home and gave a paper to his mother. He told her, “My teacher gave this paper to me and told me to only give it to my mother.”

His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her child: Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.

Many years later, after Edison’s mother had died, he was looking through old family things. Now one of the greatest inventors of the century, he suddenly saw a folded piece of paper in the corner of a desk drawer.

He took it and opened it up.

On the paper was written: Your son is addled [mentally ill]. We won’t let him come to school any more.

Edison cried for hours and then he wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”

Consider me, Joya:

Growing up, I was raised in a household where there were messages about money. “Money was for ‘others’ but not for us.” If I saw that someone raised $4.2M for their business, my immediate thought is “oh I could never do that.” But now, I ask three questions:

Is it true?

Is it accurate?

And I use “yet” as an empowering term. Look at the two sentences.

  • I don’t know how to raise that kind of money. (disempowering)
  • I don’t know how to raise that kind of money YET.But if I focused my energies on it and got the right advisors, I could. (empowering)

See the difference?

Drink Like a Lady with Kathie De-Chirico Stuart & Joya Dass
Kathie is a brand strategist. Joya is a recovering journalist. Each week, on the Drink LIke a Lady Podcast, they share tactical advice to support women getting a seat at the bar —and the boardroom.