About the Company We Keep
Today we are focused on the COMPANY WE KEEP to anchor in a new belief system.You have heard the phrase, We are the sum of the 5 people we spend time with. This relates to the law of averages, which is the theory that the result of any given situation will be the average of all outcomes
Who are the 5 people you should surround yourself with
#1 Take a hard look at friends and family
For Joya to answer – “Joya, you always wanted to be a journalist. Who inspired you and what did you see as the traits and belief systems that came across in the way that the individual was being?
I remember my mother making a comment to me when I had gotten promoted (in a very short period of time) again at Macy’s and then had the privilege of buying a house that was 2x’s as big as hers. Instead of supporting my positive ambitions her comment was “Who do you think you are?”
I will never forget the cut of that statement (especially from a mother). Nevertheless, I knew then and there that she was not a fan of my ambitions and achievements. BUT that I had a cheerleader within my family that would take on the role of supporting me.
These are the people who are always finding ways to disrupt your confidence by telling you that your vision is wrong. They are quick to inform you that your knowledge of the marketplace is not realistic. But we need them!According to a study in the Journal of Consumer Research, novices have a preference for positive feedback, but experts want negative feedback, so that they can make progress. Without them, you’d never sharpen your skills or develop tough skin.
Michele Obama example
a. Princeton and her high school guidance counselor said that “she should look for other alternatives to that school.” Instead of listening to her and letting that become a belief, she turned and said “I will not let anyone dictate the ambitions I want in my life.” After only hearing this 2 months ago, it has now become a strong belief for me. A belief that changes the trajectory of who I listen to and who I absolutely do not. And I can use her quote for other young ambitious women.
If you’re surrounding yourself with people who never ask you tough, thought-provoking questions, you’ll never be living up to your full potential to conceptualize those answers.
#4 People you admire or Role models
Hanging with someone you want to be like will make you more like them, and you’re going to start realizing value in yourself where you may not have seen it before once you get more of them in your life.
This is someone with qualities you hold in high regard who’s willing to discuss them and help you develop those qualities on your own
#6 Peers with positive habits
Taking stock in the value that people add or remove from your life means you will draw someone to you who does the same, and the cycle of self-improvement and general awesomeness perpetuates itself.